Must try this technique on the next baby

Cute Project :)

Us

For us to make sure we do not lose our way again

http://verilymag.com/2015/07/relationship-advice-keeping-marriage-strong-appreciating-your-spouse

Another awesome dance video, but this time it's cos of the great mash up of different movie dance scenes :)

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1185867228106169&id=109558392403730&ref=bookmarks

http://www.handsfreemama.com/2015/01/12/the-3-second-pause-that-can-save-a-morning-spare-some-pain/

Something to keep in mind 

I do not appreciate the way I was made to feel.

I was made out to be hiding something when I hadn't. In fact I had openly volunteered the information when the topic came up. It was on in the afternoons so I watched when it was on.

It made me feel bad when I had not done anything wrong.

It hurt to be judged and questioned.

By my partner of all people.

And this just over a tv show.

The lack of support and belief is worrying.

Especially considering there will be another variable complexity next year.

I must realise when it comes to the true crunch of things like this, I am always going to be the outsider, not part of the exalted family that you unfailingly believe and think the best of no matter what they do. 

Lost

What had been worked so hard for to be the trip of a lifetime together is now seemingly making her hate me.

I am lost, confused and despondent.

Lost because what she just said has shattered my view on the foundation of our relationship.

Confused because she had flipped from being as dismissive as this to wanting to repair things later based on the same set of issues and facts. Two extreme reactions despite the same circumstances - I am on an emotional roller-coaster which I am afraid I will fall off or worse still I may let go, not because I don't want the ride but I cannot take the emotional up and down I am going through.

Despondent because from what she just said, this is the beginning of the end. All I hear if how unhappy she is with me. How ungentlemanly and unhelpful I am. How bad I am for her. How defective I am. Perhaps she had this illusion and expectation of what she wanted in her husband and she is now realising I do not match up to that vision cos the reality has set in. I am not her father and I am not her ex-boyfriend and it seems I do not have her respect any more for sticking to my principles and who I am.

I have never seen things as good or bad but rather as sets of trade-offs without any value judgment - I think that there is a way to compromise on anything as long as both sides are willing to but both sides must want to work together even when everything is not right. Often times when we fight I seem to be pulling together for the both of us and I am tired.

I will keeping fighting for this until I fall off the roller coaster but perhaps I may have to accept that she is realising that I am not who she wants to be with afterall.

A good weekend topped off by the wifey's nicely planned Sundate.

I appreciate it when you plan stuff for me and us.

And I certainly appreciate all the efforts you have made in terms of words of appreciation, acknowledgment as well as being aware of your impending anger and we know how to let out the pressure valve by apologising or agreeing to disagree or just taking a timeout. So much nicer to have disputes resolved more amicably.

*hugs*

On that note a nice article on the subject I found today - to be used on the kids but definitely more so applicable to us as adults. :)

I’m sorry for…
This is wrong because…
In the future, I will…
Will you forgive me?

Glad your talk with your boss went well, hope mine does too - so I can sleep in peace.

In any case, only 6 weeks to the trip of a lifetime. Woohoo!

Love,
Your Constant

Such a wonderful holiday Bangkok was - full of the food we love, the massages we enjoy and the relaxation we crave. It was an especially great first night and morning too - love your tlc side :)

I also appreciate the efforts you make to keep your temper in check and more importantly no spoil for a fight anymore - in fact you actually walk away from it or keep mum and avoid it. I appreciate all your efforts and am grateful to have an understanding and committed partner who can exercise that discipline reuiqred for any good relationship to succeed.

We will always have disagreements but I think we are on the right track to handling our disputes more amicably. Thank you love.

You just don't get it do you.
My fear.
I'm afraid of sharing you. Yet you have no fear of that with me.
I don't want to be second fiddle.

As it is I don't feel as if I have your attention.
That I'm not worthy of it.

Once there is that pure innocent bundle is out.
What chance do I have.

And I wished I could enjoy these last few months or years of bliss with just you.
Before we move on to that stage.

But time and again I'm reminded it is only me that cherishes that.
Cos I'm not enough for you.
I'm reminded time and again.

Good luck to me once there is the single thing that makes you happy and fulfilled that you have waited an eternity for that I am just an evil man keeping you from.

I'm sorry I have failed you.

But I'm hurt I'm not enough for the one person I wished I was.

Just dance

Dance.

One of the simple things that makes me happy and smile and laugh.

Whether it's at a friend's wedding party.

Or my wifey shaking her booty and flicking her hair.

Or increasingly watching Jimmy Fallon as he teams up with another superstar.

Check it out here.

Everything is Awesome!

Here's a salute to a wonderful birthday week by my superwifey - full of awesome Lego, food, movies, island getaways, banana & choc pancakes, pad thai, massages, family, friends and surprises that I love.

I'm Blessed to have a partner who works hard at the relationship like I do.

Thank you sayang

Love,
xxx

Do u reckon I could do the local version of this?

LOL.

What a night. Dancing.

So happy :)

Love u baby

xxx