Us

For us to make sure we do not lose our way again

http://verilymag.com/2015/07/relationship-advice-keeping-marriage-strong-appreciating-your-spouse

A good weekend topped off by the wifey's nicely planned Sundate.

I appreciate it when you plan stuff for me and us.

And I certainly appreciate all the efforts you have made in terms of words of appreciation, acknowledgment as well as being aware of your impending anger and we know how to let out the pressure valve by apologising or agreeing to disagree or just taking a timeout. So much nicer to have disputes resolved more amicably.

*hugs*

On that note a nice article on the subject I found today - to be used on the kids but definitely more so applicable to us as adults. :)

I’m sorry for…
This is wrong because…
In the future, I will…
Will you forgive me?

Glad your talk with your boss went well, hope mine does too - so I can sleep in peace.

In any case, only 6 weeks to the trip of a lifetime. Woohoo!

Love,
Your Constant

Everything is Awesome!

Here's a salute to a wonderful birthday week by my superwifey - full of awesome Lego, food, movies, island getaways, banana & choc pancakes, pad thai, massages, family, friends and surprises that I love.

I'm Blessed to have a partner who works hard at the relationship like I do.

Thank you sayang

Love,
xxx

Thirty Three

It's been a wonderful bithday full of surprises.

My girl planned an awesome birthday that's beaten all comers. 

I'm so thankful to have a partner who gets what I love and is willing to work to give it to me. 

Thank you for working on so many things. I do not say it enough sometimes but I appreciate all your efforts and sacrifices in improving your temper, your language and understanding me and I hope you feel I am putting in just as much if not more cos I always strive to :)

We've been through so many ups and downs but each things makes us grow stronger and understand each other better. I love you more and more each day and look forward to starting our family together.

 

 

 

Thanks for all the thought and work you put in, Superwifey.

Such a great birthday and still Tioman to look forward to!

Love,

Me

It's monday today, but what a wonderful day it's been.

United nicked a winner against WBA in the final ten minutes of the game to swipe all 3 points.

Woke up late after watching the aforesaid game, but got into the office without any problems.

Cleared quite a bit of work today so surfed around abit and read the highlights of the PM's Rally speech.

That's when I got the best news of the day - the HDB income ceiling has been raised to $10k for BTOs and resale so we can now qualify for new BTO flats and the CPF grant for resale flats! Superb!! I am certainly elated. Even if its is only a CPF subsidy and there is still much work and budgeting to be done on the cash side, we definitely welcome a $40k subsidy with glee! And gratitude. Brings us That much closer to achieving our hopes and dreams :)

Then capped off the day by sorting out my baju kurung for Hari Raya such that I have a matching set with the wifey

Happy.

Am now typing at home while the missus is cooking dinner. *happy sigh*

What a great start to the week!

What a surprise! Hee :)

A surprise movie treat today!
Green Lantern may have disappointed but it was wonderful watching it all the same.
In fact I'm sure the couples behind must have been green with envy at the smooching married couple.
*chuckle*

Happy.




With my job. Even on mondays now.




With my weekly sports routine.




With my life as I can see how it is going mostly to plan and I have time & money to do things I like.


But most of all, with You cos living each day with you is a Blessing. Despite the inevitable disagreements and fights, I'm glad I have you to count on and look at and share with, my beautiful, loving gas machine. hee.



xxx

It's amazing

How you can speak

Right to my heart

Without saying a word,

You can light up the dark

:)

Love isn't about looking hot in the latest designs from Michael Kors.

Or having a cocktail soiree on a yatch off the Caymans.

Or even buying each other the latest LV and CK products.

Love is about playing badminton in a sport hall.

It's not needing to talk as you eat dinner lovingly looking at each other.

It's sharing awesome food that you both love in humble settings.

But most of all its falling asleep in each other's arms no matter what.

<3

On days like these, you're my lifeboat amid the stormy, demanding sea.

Sleepovers.
Food for Thought mixed berries pancakes.
Sunday papers with teh tarik.

Simple things that make life worth living.

Cos I love this video. And cos you're amazing...

Happy...

....to have a simple impromtu dinner & real fun movie we both enjoy

... being into each other sometimes oblivious to things ard us

... to share and laugh the things that only we do.

... seeing her turn in an unexpectedly hot dress she works for u the whole nite.

... to be grinning like an idiot for that amongst other things.

... when she giggles and asks the grinning idiot "what!?"

... for her unexpected moves *wink*

... to know that tho it may have taken a long road to get here, it makes it all the more special cos you're sure you want this more than anything else in the world; that you both do.

... to have found each other.

***insert appropriate pic as always found by miss reen

...But until then enjoy leona

On another note, it's amazing when a child wakes up crying and you pick him up and he hugs you and rests his head on your shoulder. Suddenly anything and everything else doesn't matter and anything wrong is now alright.

I might not be ready for kids now cos gosh they're alot of work but I sure look fwd to those moments when I am in future.

The ex msged me out of the blue today on Facebook.

"free for drink later?"

Even more out of the yonder cos I'd been on her blocked list! Plus I had msged her a conciliatory msg and wishes on her bday just to offer an end to the cold war, so to speak, but no response despite the gesture of good faith. But lo & behold I have a msg from her that of cos comes with the rights to see part of the profile albeit a limited part.

So as any curious cat would, especially in such a situation, I trawled through and having limited access to her pics got to her fiance's profile and photos - the guy with my name misspelled - yes the bloke she was two-timing me with has the same dang name with one letter different. Leaving aside the emotional side of things, I always found that amusing btw, that she was getting away with cheating by crazy coincidence that we shared the same name phonetically. He's quite the jock, tall, strong & silent type I'll bet - but very very mat.

As I scrolled through their pics, I realised I didn't feel the same hurt or yearning I did before. I mean she is tall, sporty and hence modelesque but I realise I had this rose-tinted view of her which has shattered now that reality has set in. Her plain face and perpetually with the hint of a scowl - Naeema was right - she does have a guy's jaw! All the fashion conflicts between us. She looked totally right in the picture with him - one-dimensional, closed-minded, malay/arab/whatever-muslim couple.

Looking at her now like an objective bystander, leaving aside all the craziness, deceit and selfishness in her and when I take into account all the differences in principles and the qualities I cherish which are sadly-lacking in her, I'm so grateful now. Cos I escaped a life with her, which it may not seem that way at the time because I was truly and as I usually am, utterly and loyally in love and so I went through the most heart-wrenching time of my life ever, but she would have been wrong for me. I'll never regret the amazing first 3 months we had but those second 3 months were the worst living nightmare of my life. I look back and still wince at the thought. How did I ever get so sure of something so wrong, something that inevitably gave me so much pain, and support it so wholeheartedly. It's unnerving, the whole thing, even to someone sure of things like me. Maybe more so because of that.

Thankfully I experienced it at this time in my life where I'm much steadier and know my worth and who I am, I don't think I would have survived as well if at all earlier in life - all the things she put me through from the lying to the emotional blackmail to the crazy demands to the flip-flopping to the ill-fated ring to more hurtful lying, in spite of her friends saying otherwise, to the inexplicable progeny scare. Just a crazy relationship, if you could call it that, despite the apparent label.

I clicked to the last photo, a shot of the two of them at a malay wedding & I'm glad things panned out the way they did cos I would never have been happy spending my life with her, and more imptly I would not have had to chance to meet someone more wonderful in leaps and bounds, someone who appreciates me for the awesome, sweet, considerate, romantic, intelligent and loving person I am, someone who likes doing the things I do, someone who is much more in tune with my energy and my outlook on life and life partners, someone who appreciates my issues and accepts them, someone who is willing to work at problems and challenges, someone who is challenged by me and strives to keep on trying to up the ante and because of that makes us both better in turn, someone who enjoys good random things, someone who truly makes me happy and wants to make me happy...

Someone like you :)

Needless to say, I ignored the msg.

I ♥ this song!

And did I mention I ♥ blue skies

And I ♥ this weekend!

I Love...

..those lovely dresses and hot tops.

..your shoulders. Yummy.

..that you tell me about pop trivia I actually doesn't know abt.

..how you bust out the moves when u want some sugar for the night.

..that you're the only girl I love watching footie with.

..how you come up with random shit that makes me smile.

..how you pick up the tab, and do so with a smile. Oh yes that sweet smile :)

..that you care about what I want even if u don't agree.

..that u wanna get abs. No? But I'd be forever hooked! Really! And while u're at it some socio-political climate post-recession in a hawt british accent. Pleeease :) HA HA.

..that you mix it up sometimes cos ultimately it turns me on.

..how comfortable I am with you.

..how you don't push the talkin when I'm not in the mood.

..your strength and faith.

..that you give me a lifetime of sports to look forward to.

..that you accept me for what I am.

..your open-mind and giving heart.

..so many things, but most of all...

..you.



~Tho I have my doubts, it's time to work my shit out~